There’s a saying “It takes a village to raise a child” which I agree with. It also takes a holistic approach to create a life. There will always be something on your to do list that doesn’t get done. It’s natural and really it’s okay. There will always be some aspect of your world that could use improvement. That’s what makes us strive to be better human beings. We can however work on those aspects and create a sense of flow in our lives. The more automated we can make those menial tasks the more mental and physical energy we will have to focus on what’s truly important to us, our families, our careers, whatever is most important to you.
I can’t say that this process is easy, not by a long shot. It’s necessary though. Do you need to be perfect? Absolutely not! There is no such thing. As a recovering perfectionist I’m telling you it’s necessary to learn to let that need go. To let that desire for perfection go. Do your best but don’t get so stressed out trying to be perfect that you never begin!
I’ve taken the last two weeks off. It made me feel guilty for doing it but I realized that if I didn’t I would never be able to figure out what I needed. I started the process a little over a month ago by turning off the facebook notifications on my phone. That was incredibly helpful I have to say. Then, 3 days ago I removed facebook from my phone entirely. Again, one of the best things I have done for myself. It just got to be too much and my anxiety was so, so bad. I have to stay on fb due to my business but if it weren’t for that I would seriously have turned it completely off.
So why am I telling you this? This is a process. It’s genuinely a process of healing, learning, learning to love myself, even the parts I hate, integrating into one whole being. Instead of hiding those parts of myself I’ve hated for so long I’m working hard to bring them to the light and understand the why behind it all. If I need to shift a thought process and change then I do so. If I cannot then it’s a process of embracing it and loving it without condition.
We do what we have to do for a while in order to survive. But at some point we really need to stop and ask ourselves how long we can really maintain straight survival. And beyond that how long do we WANT to maintain a straight visceral level survival. I assure you the answer is not very long. Burn out is a force to be reckoned with and it’s not one you want to encounter too many times.